Monday, May 30, 2011

The Written Word is a Sacred and Powerful Thing.

When I was little my mother used to beg me to read. I would eventually pick up a book and start to read it but I never finished a book before getting rid of it. I thought that reading was boring and that it was for complete losers. It was for people who had zero imagination. That was until I was 13.
 When we moved to small town, nothing to do Magrath, Alberta. I didn't like the people, I didn't like the snobby non welcoming way the people ignored a new comer. I seriously hated the school and the teachers. I hated that the students were snobby and didn't like people that were different. It was like everyone had to fit into three different kinds of molds or else they were not welcome and were treated with disrespect. I used to wander the halls at lunch period and waste time. And it being such a small school with nothing to do, I found myself wandering into the library often. I would read the magazines in there or do word searches. Finally I thought to look at the books and read one.
 Now I can't remember the title of the book. But I remember the main character was named Gwen and she was a princess of a world that was beneath the fountain in Central Park. She escaped through the fountain and found herself in the normal human world. But she was also magical. She aged much slower. She met a man who also had escaped from the fountain and was now raising his great great great great grandchildren. They didn't know he was from another world, that he was magical and aged much slower then humans. Gwen explored the world, and learned many things, but also learned that when somebody discovered her secret they would go to great lengths to get control over her. So eventually she escaped back into her world, she left behind a friend and a boyfriend. She would often look back up through the fountain and see him looking down into it.
Now I was 13 when I read this and it peaked my interest. For the first time I had seen that reading gave me the opportunity to imagine things. To have dreams about something other then reality. Looking back the story line sounds retarted and weak but at the time, it gave me a different reality then the one I was living. I started reading all the time. I spent hours reading at home. I would read at lunch and during my free time at school. I read over 30 books in grade 8. It was opening my eyes to a new life. Over the next two years I discovered that I had particular taste in books. I liked reality and romance. Not the sexy steamy romance novels that are meant to create arousal but the story lines where someone would truly love someone. Like a mothers love for her daughter, a boyfriends genuine love for his girlfriend. A father daughter story. I also noticed that I loved reading particular writiers. Anita Stansfield, Nora Roberts, Charlotte Bronte, Emily Bronte, Anne Bronte, James Clavell, Steinbeck, Jane Austen, John Grisham, Philippa Gregory, ect...
Now after all I have read, I have a new found love of books. The written word is not only a way for someone to escape into a fictional world, but it also gives a single person the ability to write their truth. They can tell their story. If it is about abuse, drugs, sex, work, school, parties, birthdays, being a parent, or just rambling on for the sake of it. The ability to express yourself to the world and connect with people on a personal level is strong and powerful. It gives those who feel invisible and like they have no purpose, a voice to say I AM HERE!
  So I treat all my books with respect and I make sure that they are organized and put away when I am not reading them. I love the written word and the ability it has to show me how much I have learned and how much I have grown.


He that loves a book will never want a faithful friend, a wholesome counselor, a cheerful companion, an effectual comforter. By study, by reading, by thinking, one may innocently divert and pleasantly entertain himself, as in all weathers, as in all fortunes.
- Barrow
To read is to fly: it is to soar to a point of vantage which gives a view over wide terrains of history, human variety, ideas, shared experience and the fruits of many inquiries.
- A C Grayling, Financial Times (in a review of A History of Reading by Alberto Manguel)
A book is the only place in which you can examine a fragile thought without breaking it, or explore an explosive idea without fear it will go off in your face. It is one of the few havens remaining where a man's mind can get both provocation and privacy.
- Edward P. Morgan

Monday, May 23, 2011

To Oprah!

 This is for OPRAH! The woman who liberated women all over the world. Gave them a voice and proved that a woman is a very powerful thing to be. She encouraged children, women, and men who have endured abuse, to speak out and share their story. She has millions of dollars and she gives so much of it back to the people who need it most. She had a troubled childhood, a shaky beginning in her career and she showed that no matter what the odds, you can be somebody and you can do something that will impact those around you.
 From Dave Pelzer to Clayton Moss, she covered the most horrific cases of child abuse. She reunited families together after years of separation. She honored soldiers and their families. She educated girls who had no place to go and would in no other way have an education. She used her popularity and her money to put many pedophiles behind bars. She encouraged people to read and to give back to those around you.

Oprah's Big Give forever touched my heart and changed the lives of thousands of people.

I respect Oprah and what she has done for the world. She opened my eyes to many many things. She shared Dr. Oz with us. Who has taught me so much about health (mental and physical) and has encouraged me to take better care of myself. She gave us Dr. Phil who has great sayings such as "How's that workin for ya?" or "The way to predict future behavior is by past behavior." She has opened up her heart to the world and in many ways she has saved my life.
Oprah helped me with my parents divorce and when I was feeling alone. She taught me that no matter who it is, there is no right for someone to abuse another. She taught me that I need to dream. Dream big, dream small. Whatever it is I need to have a dream.

So this one is for Oprah. Thank you for saving the lives of so many and teaching the world so much.

Sunday, May 15, 2011

Life as Mommy...with Postpartum Depression.

 When Michael was born I was so sure that I was not going to be one of those people that would get Postpartum Depression (PPD) but soon enough the symptoms were clear as day. I became so embarrassed about it that I tried to hide it. Finally when I went to visit my mother she sat me down and said that she knew something was wrong. I started to bawl immediately and she just put her arm on my shoulders and let me cry. She talked to me about how I felt. And to be honest, I didn't know how I felt. I didn't like myself, what I had done, why I had done it and I just wanted things to end and for me to disappear. When we spoke about this I felt like for the first time in a LONG time somebody knew what I was saying. Frankie and I were struggling with out relationship, the adoption choice, and being new parents. Adding depression on top of that was incredibly difficult. He didn't know how I felt and what to do. I felt like I was a prisoner in my own body and I had a baby to take care of. As much as I love Michael, all I wanted was for him to sleep all day and not need me so much. I felt like I was unable to take care of myself so how on earth could I take care of a helpless baby?
 
 When Michael was 9 months old, I said to myself, I need to get some help. I had been trying to ignore this problem for so long and my mental health was sliding down the drain. How was I to go back to work, be a mother and not fall apart? I went to my doctor in Raymond, Dr. Terry Smith. He has been my doctor for years and he knows my mother had depression as well as other members of my family. He listened to me and immediately put me on something. It feels good to know that finally I am on the path to recovery.

 At first my bad days were only once in a while, then they were more frequent. Then all of a sudden they were lasting 2 -3 days at a time and I was so incredibly angry that I actually threw something at Frank. I physically wanted to hurt him to make him feel how I felt. To feel the frustration and the anger, but mostly the pain, that I was living with every single day. Now my days are better, my moments are no longer days. I have a few bad hours here and there but mostly all I feel is improvement.

Tuesday, May 10, 2011

Fun in the Sun.

 Well we finally got some nice heat here in Lethbridge. I have been looking at baby pools for about three weeks already and wanted to buy the perfect one for Michael. Something that he could grow in but that wasn't going to be to big for him right now. So today I went and bought him his first baby pool and we put it outside right away. Michael loves water and as soon as he was in the pool he was splashing his little heart away. Daddy of course got in with him making it that much better.


 He started splashing so hard that it would hit him in the face. He thought it was funny and kept doing it. Such a funny boy.

 He got right down on his belly and was splashing and trying to drink from a bottle that he plays with in water. He actually squeezes the bottle and sips from the top. He figured that out on his own.
 Got to love having a booger sucker in the water. Anything that squirts water is the best fun.
 Michael learned how to drink from a straw a couple days ago and thinks he is the cats meow now. He gets to slurp some of mommy or daddy's slurpee and drink from my water bottle so I bought him his own.
At the end he was all smiles for mommy, especially when Daddy is holding him. Such a big smile. I love this little man so much.

Sunday, May 8, 2011

TO the Loves of my Life...Frankie and Michael.

I am blessed to have two very special men in my life. Frankie and Michael.
Frankie is a very hardworking, amazing father, and funny dorkishly cute man.

Kimberley BC July 5 2009

Kimberley BC- Mine Railway Train Ride July 3 2009

We go camping together and have a blast in BC every summer. We love the mountains, and the fresh air. I love the animals that you can hear wondering around at night. Frankie loves to cook over the fire and when we camp we eat better then we do at home.
The first camping trip we went on was to Kimberley BC. I went there when I was 8 and I had a blast. So I convinced Frankie to go there and we had so much fun. The weather was beautiful, and we stayed at a really fun and really nice camp ground. Kimberley Riverside Campground. We went to the townsite and walked around and I made Frank go on the Underground Railway train ride with me. They take you up to the old mine, and they give you a tour of it. It is deep inside the mountain.Frankie and I love movies, and we look forward to the warm sun that comes every summer so that we can escape to British Columbia. This year I want to go to Golden BC and to Radium Hot Springs.

Michael is a funny little boy with spunk. He is a flirt and is extremely shy. He loves his daddy and can already say Dadda and he says it ALL THE TIME! I am trying to teach him Momma but so far all I get is mmmm. He was born 6lbs 10oz and he has grown up so much.
Michael July 15 2010  6 hours old.













Michael February 2011. 










I found a song three years ago when Frankie and I met and ever since then it has been my theme song about him.Westlife's I Wanna Grow Old With You.



Another day
Without your smile
Another day just passes by
But now I know
How much it means
For you to stay
Right here with me

The time we spent apart will make our love grow stronger
But it hurt so bad I can't take it any longer

I wanna grow old with you
I wanna die lying in your arms
I wanna grow old with you
I wanna be looking in your eyes
I wanna be there for you
Sharing everything you do
I wanna grow old with you

A thousand miles between us now
It causes me to wonder how
Our love tonight remains so strong
It makes our risk right all along

The time we spent apart will make our love grow stronger
But it hurt so bad I can't take it any longer

I wanna grow old with you
I wanna die lying in your arms
I wanna grow old with you
I wanna be looking in your eyes
I wanna be there for you
Sharing everything you do
I wanna grow old with you

Things can come and go I know but
Baby I believe
Something's burning strong between us
Makes it clear to me

I wanna grow old with you
I wanna die lying in your arms
I wanna grow old with you
I wanna be looking in your eyes
I wanna be there for you
Sharing everything you do
I wanna grow old with you











Escape to Freedom

 I love being a mommy. I love being Michael's mother more then anything. I have been so blessed in so many ways. Yet still I found myself sinking into a deep hole. Depression runs in my family and I have always battled it, but after Michael was born I started sinking at an incredible rate. Some days I would cry for no reason, others I was so angry at everything that happened or was said. Nothing could soothe my frustration or anxiety. I put on a face for others so that they wouldn't see it but inside I was screaming.
 I spoke to my mother about this, since she suffered with depression for 25 years. She is better now and has learned how to handle her life in a way that she doesn't cause stress or anxiety. It felt like she could read my inner thoughts and she knew exactly what I was feeling. I felt like I was an open book to her, but to everyone else they just saw a cover. She spoke to me about ways to handle it and ways to help prevent the high anxiety that I was always feeling. Turns out I am my own worst enemy.
  I went to my doctor, after 9 months of avoiding him. I said I needed Happy Pills. He has known me since I was 12 and he is the doctor for 7 of my family members. He put me on a medication trial for 7 days. And so far I am hating this drug. It makes me very sickly feeling. Not enjoying it at all. So for the next few months I am guessing, I will be testing out different anti- depressants to see how they affect me and make me feel.

Friday, May 6, 2011

Birth Mothers Appreciation

  I am super duper excited about Birth Mothers Appreciation. Me and two others have started working on putting together a group for girls who need support. It is not just for those who are placing for adoption, but for those who had a surprise pregnancy. Whether you keep your little one, or you place them for adoption, this is the place to read about others who have the same feelings and experiences that they had.


birthmothersappreciation.blogspot.com    

HAPPY BIRTHMOTHERS DAY!!!!


Marie Osmond does the best job showing the emotion that this subject deserves.

Mothers Day

As my first official Mothers Day is creeping closer, I can't help but look back on all that has happened. A year ago I sat in the bathroom, with the door locked, crying my eyes out. This year I laugh with my son as he plays in the house and says DADDA and glagaala sounds.

To all the mothers in the world, including Birth Mothers. HAPPY MOTHERS DAY!


Mothers Day always makes me think of one thing. "From Gods Arms, To My Arms, To Yours" Michael McLean wrote music about all sides of adoption. And since last year I was considering placing my baby for adoption it seems only right to reflect and remember.